THE FEMININE

Are you accessing your Feminine energies? In what ways are you being nurturing and supportive? Is your Feminine energy grounded? Are you providing sustenance for yourself and those you care about? How are you at holding space and allowing growth?

What can you do to cultivate your Feminine energy? In what ways might you be suppressing your feminine energy? Is your Feminine energy being overly active in areas of your life? Or is it deficient? (Quite often with men it is deficient.)

It should be noted that The Feminine is also associated to the Water element and (Kapha Dosha: the combination of water and earth in Ayurveda). Water also controls Fire; the element that is associated to the masculine. In other words, as water can cool and thus control fire, the feminine can also cool / control the masculine.  

Furthermore, It is also said that Feminine energy is circular and flows like a river, finding its way into the smallest of crevices and tearing down the greatest of obstacles on its way to the sea. But why am I talking about water on this page that is supposed to be about earth?

The water element is controlled by the earth element. For example, the banks of a river are made of earth. But, if the earth element is too strong (too dry and too masculine) it is like river banks that are too narrow and full of boulders and debris that impede the flow of the water. In other words, excessive earth element leads to an overcontrolled and deficient water element. Thus, instead of enabling the feminine qualities of water to carry the nourishing qualities of the earth, circularly, we experience the negative quality of excessive earth that often is expressed as stubborness and/or devisiveness. For the earth element is also associated to boundaries; and excessive earth creates boundaries that divide. However, healthy boundaries (healthy balanced earth qualities) are not meant to separate, but to bond!

As you read thru the virtues below,

ask yourself if you have too much,

not enough, or are just right.

Score yourself as too much with a +1

or not enough with a - 1

and just right with a 0

Earth

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Yin Qualities

Acceptance

Belonging

Honest

Non-Judging

Secure

Stable

Selfless

Patient

Centered

Present

Grounded

Integrated

Integrity

Yang Qualities

Strong

Holding

Bonding

Protecting

Boundaries*

Steadfast

Nourishing

Responsible

Sacrificial

Cyclical

Giving

Serving

Loyal

Firm

Solid

Unifying

Diversifying

Loving

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Feminine / Caregiver

THE CAREGIVER

A healthy caregiver is a great gift to the world, but often even the ehlathy caregiver can have her or his heartstrings pulled to the point where the level of care they give to others is not healthy for the giver or even the one receiving "care". The old addage when giving discipline "this will hurt me more than it will hurt you" can be true on many levels. When earth energies are too strong a caregivers qualities may become more smothering than helpful and shielding someone from all consequences is a disservice to their growth in the long run; but it also depletes the caregiver. Like soil that has been tilled and toiled too much, excessive caregiving loses its ability to be nourishing.  

 

The caregiver is the antithesis of the narcissist. But rarely does the narcissist know s/he is the antithesis of a caregiver. These are extremes, but a good question to ask one's self is "To what degree [if any] do I care if anyone is looking when i help someone?" In other words, does your caregiver need acknowledgement? If so, you are probably a bit deficient of earth, of acceptance, of a feeling of belonging, and other qualities associated to earth.  The caring you show to others may be more about the way you wish to show yourself; perhaps because the caring given to you was deficient of earth as well. But, whatever the reason, most everyone has a bit of a narcissist within them; if only for self preservation. The question is whether it shows up excessively, deficiently or in the right measure.

If your caregiver shows up like a martyr you might want to check your level of narcissism. And if your caregiver never shows up at all, you really should check your level of narcissism. But if you show up in a truly caring way while also making sure you are not harming yourself while you care for others; nor care if anyone is watching, then you are probably a pretty balanced caregiver.  

*The root word of Boundary is Bond.

Good boundaries are not meant to seperate, but to support good bonds.

Yin and Yang / Feminine and Masculine are in every element, but often will have more characteristics that line up with a certain side. (i.e water is more feminine and fire is more masculine). But the qualities of Earth element are unique because they seem to  have a  more equal measure of yin and yang. Nevertheless there is a bit of a slant towards the yin / feminine (aka Mother Earth). Nevertheless, if these measures are disturbed it will cause an imbalance that impedes Earths qualities.

Earth Deficient

From the virtues list above, if you added your number of negatives and they surpass your positives then you are probably earth deficient. However, if you did not take the time to add these up you can simply ask yourself the following questions:

Have your boundaries been crossed?

Do they get crossed often?

Are you not feeling safe or stable?

Do you lack satisfaction or sweetness in life?

Do you easily become addicted?

This is an indication of an earth element deficiency.

In addition to cultivating the earth qualities and archetypes listed above, you may also want to call in the fire element energies; as fire supports earth.

Earth Excessive

From the virtues list above, if you added your number of positives and they surpass your negatives then you are probably earth excessive. However, if you did not take the time to add these up you can simply ask yourself the following questions:

Is it hard for you to get moving?

Do you stay where its always comfortable? 

Are you a bit stubborn?

Do you cross boundaries to get what you want? 

This is an indication of excessive earth element.

Therefore, consider cultivating the characteristics of space;

as space controls excessive earth. 

Earth Reset!

Earth Element Meridians 

Stomach

Spleen